Most important decision in life


  • Are you looking back or looking forward.

    Jen’s point…future decisions …is valid.

    But, if you are on your deathbed looking back?

    Or, if you are on your deathbed asking your loved one to pull the plug/shoot you/end your suffering?
    What value have you placed on life? 
    What value are you instilling in your grandchildren?  To end life when they determine it is not worth living.

    Marriage?  If it is to be successful you value the beenefits to your spouse and kids more than your own pleasure/benefit.
    Jennifer ,  Your marriage comment sounds like you believe the crap that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
    Take out the people who marry and divorce repeatedly(x3 or more) and the numbers go WAY DOWN!!!

    Some never marry and in many cases that’s a good thing.  They are too self-centered and/or immature.
    Even that might be considered the most important decision in some people’s lives.

    Adolf Hitler had no kids.  Thank gods!!
    Good for us.
    Good for the NONEXISTENT THEM!

    Many valuable decisions you make repeatedly every day…with or without knowing it.
    You keep your faith…or deny it.
    You stay married or divorce.
    You take that drink or refuse to take a drink…one day at a time.

    The two FOX reporters valued their lives enough to accept Islam on video.
    Now these reporters have valued/or not valued their faith enough to renounce Islam.
    They must value their faith or faithlessness enough to die for it…
    because they now have a target painted on each of them.

    For what decisions are you willing to die?
    For what decisions are you willing to sacrifice those you love?

    Save the world/lose your family.
    Save the continent/lose your family.
    Save the nation/lose your family.
    Save the state or region/lose your family.
    Save Quebec City or Bejing or Mexico City or Canberra or Washington or some smaller city/lose your family.
    Save your village or township/lose you family.
    Save your church./lose your family.
    Save your block/ lose your family.
    Save your kids’ school/ lose your family?

    Is it an important enough decision to think about ahead of time???

    Imperious Leader , 
    NOT having children…
    Look at the Democrat party to see where it gets you….
    Dems are more likely to abort a child.
    Dems are more likely to not have kids.
    Dems are more likely to have 1 or 2 kids(Republicans[rich or poor] are more likely to have 2 or more.)
    That’s why their #s are decreasing.

    Of course, we could talk of minorities & illegals in America having more kids than the white majority…
    but that’s another topic for another thread.


  • Imperious Leader ,
    NOT having children…
    Look at the Democrat party to see where it gets you…
    Dems are more likely to abort a child.
    Dems are more likely to not have kids.
    Dems are more likely to have 1 or 2 kids(Republicans[rich or poor] are more likely to have 2 or more.)
    That’s why their #s are decreasing.

    ++++ what about single parent adoption?

    I dont care about keeping the “numbers up”. Its not about how many republicans/white people are going be reproduced. Its about making smart choices that dont destroy your life. Their are too many things that can go wrong in a marrage. Alot more than what can happen right i can tell you that as a fact! Play the odds and stay single. Dont fall into the trap of “gee i’m worried ill never find true happyness… so ill just get married because it feels right” Good grief get a grip on things and look past that crap.


  • People make commitments they keep. They also fall in and out of some of these commitments.
    Marriage…not always perfect.
    Faith…not always perfect.
    Various brotherhoods from KKK to Omega(balck frat) to Knight of Kiwanis to Spanish Inq. to NAAACP to Al Queda to US Marines to the Skulls, etc…none perfect some doing lil or no good.

    Sounds like your commitment is to yourself.
    Narcisistic. Hedonistic. Selfish.

    I prefer the kinda peeps who helped at WTC or Katrina aftermath.
    Some of them are dead now because they tried to help.

    Or those who pulled the co-pilot outa that plane in Lexington.

    Or the 1000’s who helped search for a missing 3 year old in nearby Cincinnati…
    some missed sleep, some missed work, some both…
    only to find out that someone in the family killed him, burned the body and disposed of it(details as yet unknown.)

    If another kid is “lost” I know lots of those people or others like them will join the next search.

    My commitment is to my family.  Yes, there have been problems, but we have worked through them together.
    Next is my church and then my neighbors.  If something bad happens I’ll help whoever’s closest after my family is as safe as I can make them.

    A little sacrifice on my/your part can make a great difference.
    Seen the movie Pass It Forward?
    It doesn’t always work.

    Napolean, Ghandi, Washington, Ceasar, Alexander the Great, Mother Teresa, Harriet Beecher Stowe, and many others were individuals, but they didn’t accomplish what got done alone.

    For the other side see Stalin, Mao, Che, Sadddam, etc.
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    No sermon intended. Take it or leave it.


  • I am a slave to my philosophy. It is not a personal self-absorbed pathos. Its based on ideas that have timeless value and do not compromise or accommodate to how i feel or from others “needs”. It is not the need “in- itself” that compells action on my part, rather the objectification of actions is based upon a principle of “self-interest”
    Thus I do not give to beggars because it is not in my self interest maintain their lifestyle w/o some effort on their part to make change possible. Marrage does not serve my self interest because freedom to me is of a much greater importance. I am not going to be encumbered to a short chain of trouble. Many times my “objectification” of the matter provides a much greater support to others around me than what would be possible under your examples.

    I am not clear… did you pull people from Katrina? and WTC?.. If not i really dont see your point at all.


  • @AgentOrange:

    I like that quote!  I feel like that is the point-of-view that the Navy uses sometimes to prod it’s people along.  But all sailor pessimism aside, I do think it is a very valid way to put it.  8-)

    I recall a calendar quote  " The wind and the waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators."

    I guess you can break it down by examining your life so far. 
    Figure out what the “wind and the waves” are going to be in your life going forward. 
    Seek wise counsel on what abilities/materials you will need to manage them well, and then pursue them with a purpose.

    Tri,
    I would imagine that winning A & A players usually examine the board carefully before spending $$ on reinforcements.
    That may be why you started this thread.


  • @Imperious:

    I am a slave to my philosophy.

    I am not clear… did you pull people from Katrina? and WTC?.. If not i really dont see your point at all.

    No, I wasn’t there.

    My point is that I seek out others who risk something of value(their time, property, money, health, life, and sometimes a little emotion) to help others.
    No, I don’t give $ to vagrants. Though I have bought them lunch, watched/eaten and talked with them, as well as gotten a blanket or helped them find a shelter.

    Sometimes, I’m sure it’s been a waste of time.  However, at other times I think I’ve seen a change(a light in the eye) or heard a comment(“I think I’m gonna head home.”)  And NO, I didn’t buy them a bus ticket to San Diego(refundable at the counter.)

    I’ve learned a lot from the helpers and the helped that I’ve met, including how to spot a scam(or a score of them.)
    If I can pass this knowledge on to others then more can really help those who need it and fewer get scammed.


    I, my family. and friends have helped old folks do yard and house work, put up/take down/repair screens, fix gutters, windows, locks and doors.
    Sometimes I’ve even accepted a buck or two for the work so that they can keep their pride.  But the $ always goes to a future project(plastic bags, rivets, screen, etc.) If the work is not arranged by a volunteer organization or church, sometimes I spend my $ for lunches.
    *****************************8
    OMGs!!!
    What a waste. My time, my money, my gas, wear and tear on my SUV, my emotions, my self-image,
    my relationship with a non-existent supreme being.

    Not to mention anyone else because they don’t matter anyway.


    Sometimes the result of giving isn’t worth it.
    Recall… a plane crashed in NY or DC in icy water.
    A passerby jumped in to save one passenger.
    He went back for a second…
    followed by a third, fourth and fifth!
    Then he went back again and died!!!

    It wasn’t worth it!!!

    Or was it?

    Ask his friends.  Ask his family.  Ask those he saved.  Ask him.
    Oh, I forgot. You can’t.

  • '18 '17 '16 '11 Moderator

    And what scams have you found?

    I find that buying a hotdog or a cup of coffee or a breakfast meal from McDonald’s for osmeone basically eliminates the chance of being scammed.  I’d NEVER give cash to someone on the street!


  • Or you could do what a former co-worker of mine did.

    They homeless guy hit him up outside a Convenience Store asking for “some help.”  He said, sure, he’d help the guy when he came out of the store.

    On the way out, this former co-worker handed the guy a job application for the Convenience Store  :evil:


  • And what scams have you found?

    ok I will never give to people who standing around in the same spot everyday and hold a sign… They are career bums.

    If somebody hangs around any market ot liqour store same thing… I will not be accosted in this situation… they are mostly drunks… they dont buy food.

    I dont buy that “im out of gas and i need a nickel story”

    If i see a person in need by their demonstation of them actually looking for bottles, cans, change in the gutter… basically demonstating an ability to make a decision to do something to change their situation by earning/ working… then i open my heart and my wallet. I am not cheap either… Ever since my best friends mother died i made a promise to help only people who want to help themselves. And thats exactly what i will do.

    but i will never help people who make a choice to stay the same situation… to stay inferior… a shadow of what is possible is not acceptable.


  • Thanks, trihero.

    Because I just realized that the most important decision in life is what you decide to do, RIGHT NOW.

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