Here you can download TripleA (https://triplea-game.org/) which is a program that allows you to play online, trough pbem or just local (vs AI or friends that come over, without having to actually put up the board, fast and easy gameplay). I dont think you’ll find many players that are willing to play like you suggest, but hopefully for you there are some around. I suggest you try online gaming tough, because there is always someone around that is ready to play at any given time of the day.
I hope you have fun playing and learn lots of new strategies and such. Btw with that program you can play almost any game there is available on the A&A genre and also other games like NWO, Domination, LOTR and much more. Good luck and have fun!