i play a&a and almost always lose. i really need help. my main opponent is a better player than me. please give me strategies. thanks in advance.
Concepts are generally more important than strategies. If you're solid on those, the strategies will leap out at you. The number one thing to understand is the basics of waging a land war. You say you've lurked the boards for a while so chances are you know all probably first turn moves. Going back to old Classic A&A, this is explained in Essay 4. Even though this is a past A&A game, deadzone concepts still hold.
http://donsessays.freeservers.com/The extension of this knowledge is a grasp of when to build infantry/artillery and when to throw in some tanks.
I don't know how he beats you. If I could play against you, or see a game you lost, then I could give a lot more detailed advice.